How to stop a ‘labrant’ family feud with a ‘good neighbour’
As a child, a couple from Labrant in Melbourne’s north-west took their feud with another family very seriously.
“The kids are like, ‘Dad, Dad, Dad,'” says Sarah Kallie, who lives with her mother and sister in a quiet, two-bedroom house in Labrant.
“It’s just like, oh, come on.
Don’t go to that party.
They’re just not worth it.”
The couple is not your average labrant, but their argument with the other Labrant family had a much more negative impact on their lives.
“They’re like, this is what we’re going to do,” Ms Kallies says.
“If we can’t have this party, we’re not going to have any of these parties.”
Labrant is a quiet suburb of Melbourne, home to about 200 families.
It’s also a playground of sorts for the Labrant children, who are all about “doing their best”, says Ms Kanyes mother.
They are also the kind of people who go to the local park, park their car, and go out to play.
Labrant, like most suburbs in Victoria, has a low rate of gun violence.
But Ms Kalies son, Nathan, says there have been a couple of incidents in the past few years.
“One of the times we were at the house, my son got shot,” she says.
Ms Kalinge says it’s not uncommon for her children to come home from school crying.
“I’d never seen him cry like that, ever,” she recalls.
“We’re just really scared of them, and we’ve had a few times where they’ve called me like, like, I can’t breathe.”
Mr Kallys is a teacher who has taught his son and daughter for two decades.
“My kids are my life, they’re my best friend,” he says.
When it comes to the violence, he’s not worried about it.
“This is the world we live in, and I don’t really care about anything else,” he said.
“But I do worry about the kids and I do think we need to get our kids in there.”
The family have been able to settle their differences peacefully.
Ms Kalies son says the family are still close and he is “always there for them”.
But Ms Kalie says she would not be able to live with her son “at home”, and that it’s time for a change.
“As a parent, you have to be able, if it’s a good person, to say, ‘I know that they’re not good people’,” she says, “because they’re going through a lot.”
Ms Kandies son also says that she is “not a labrant”.
She says that while they’ve never been “gang-banging” on their neighbour, she does “want them to know I’m their friend”.
“But it’s more than just that,” she said.
Ms and her husband have two young children, aged just one and five.
They have also been married for four years.
Their two daughters are both in their early 20s.
The eldest daughter is also studying, and plans to start university in the next few years, while the eldest is planning to move to a different city.
“When they have their kids, they want to be with us,” Ms Kalys said.
She and her children have a strict relationship.
“So we just don’t do any of that stuff, because I’m going to take care of them,” she explains.
“And if it comes down to, ‘Is this going to be an accident?’
She and the family plan to move, but they’re worried that if they do, “they might be angry”. “
She says she is confident that when the children are older, they will not be “gang banging”.
She and the family plan to move, but they’re worried that if they do, “they might be angry”.
“That’s why we have a bond, and that’s why I’m so happy that we have that.””
Every day is a challenge, but at the end of the day, we love each other, we do all the things that we need,” she explained.
“That’s why we have a bond, and that’s why I’m so happy that we have that.”